Thursday, August 19, 2010

five years ago today

Mr. and Mrs. Misfit were married!


It's funny looking back. We were so young. We were so full of hope for so many things about which, now, we are not; time has made us cynical, not without cause. On the other hand, so many of the world's challenges seemed near impossible then, which now seem easy; and we faced many difficulties in our relationship and new marriage at which, now, we laugh.

Old married people told us, when we were engaged, that the love we felt as a young couple newly smitten with one another would change - but it would improve. It seemed damning with faint praise, and I wonder whether that isn't how they meant it. If they did, they were wrong. There are qualitative differences between initial infatuation and an enduring love; but each day we love each other more, and for all I've heard his jokes, and he knows my crazy family stories, and he may move out if I lick my fingers after eating Cheetos again, and I plot frequently to destroy his laptop so that he can't use it in bed - the same magic that first drew us to one another persists, alongside something more powerful than we knew then, and could never have expected.

Life is rarely what we expect of it, nor what we hope; and at the wise old age of twenty-eight, I am coming to understand what is signified by the "vale of tears." But amid our many trials come profound blessings, and for us, fortunate souls that we are, this vocation is one of them.

22 comments:

  1. Congrats! And, um, licking one's fingers after eating Cheetos is perhaps the best part of eating Cheetos!!

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  2. Happy Anniversary! Love the picture :).

    We weren't surrounded by wise old married people when we got married (in the military at the time), so all DH got was "why you gettin' married, did you knock her up?". And then, after we were married - "just wait, after the second year the honeymoon phase is over and real life begins". Followed by "yeah, when your 5th anniversary comes around, that's when things start to get old" and then, "oh, if you can make it 7 years you're lucky!". We got so little encouragement from our military friends - they just didn't know how to be happily married!

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  3. Happy Anniversary to you and your husband. I love the pic!

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  4. Happy anniversary. Beautiful post and I love the picture, especially since it's still secretive too.

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  5. Happy Anniversary, Mr. & Mrs. Misfit! I LOVE that picture! It’s as if you were destined to have an anonymous blog ;)

    My NFP instructor said the same thing, but it was definitely positive. She said she would look at her wedding pictures and think, “That girl doesn’t even know what love is!” She didn’t mean it seriously, but was saying the love would change but grow so much stronger over the years.

    Callmemama: That was harsh! One of my good friends was getting divorced and very bitter about it that she made me cry (a rare occurrence) with her negative comments. Still, that was one person and you were surrounded.

    Happy anniversary!

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  6. Happy Anniversary! I would have to say when we first got married we had no idea that we'd love each other even more as each year passed....we had no idea what a wonderful gift God had given to us. I really love the last line you wrote..."But amid our many trials come profound blessings, and for us, fortunate souls that we are, this vocation is one of them." I feel the same way!

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  7. Happy anniversary! I don't care what anyone says, love only gets better over time.

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  8. Happy Anniversary! We were married 4 years ago today. The trials have brought us closer as well, and though we are far from perfect, we remain perfect for each other :)

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  9. Happy Anniversary - great picture!

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  10. Happy Anniversary!!!! I agree with Praying for Hope -- it does get better with time!

    Blessings to you both!

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  11. Happy Anniversary - great picture!

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  12. You should be a writer! Happy Anniversary:)

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  13. Happy Anniversary! :) I agree with Praying , love does only get better over time! :)

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  14. Wait...are there people who DON'T lick their fingers after they eat Cheetos??

    :) Happy anniversary!!

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  15. Happy Anniversary!!

    I love, love this post and the honest truth about love and marriage. Marriage is a gift and it is work, we work hard to keep it the gift God intended it to be for us!!! Prayers for you both!!

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  16. Happy anniversary and many more to come! Where is a picture with faces? lol

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  17. Happy Anniversary! I love the picture, too, but I wish I could see your face :)

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  18. Beautifully written. Love to picture. Wishing you many more happy moments and anniversaries in the future.

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